This morning DaddyBear has a very informative post about teaching our kids how to deal with bullies.
His philosophy is almost identical to what Mr. Tea and I have always told our kids. Basically, if you tried to avoid the fight, but had no choice we will support you no matter what. Also, if you are standing up for someone that can not defend them self, we will also support you, no matter what the school is saying.
We were also just talking to youngest DD this past weekend that if she ever has to defend herself, then to fight as "dirty" as she needs to! And then to get away the first chance she can!